ME AS A FEMALE MUSICIAN

There was a period, I think 4 years ago, when I tried to get a band back together. Because I missed singing a lot and I was frustrated and even though I worked a lot I wanted some breaks where I could relax and let off steam. So I put announcements on the music sites. Do you know what musicians think of a woman who wants to make music? They think he doesn't understand anything and doesn't know music. I was 14 when I bought my first and only very precious sibtetizer thanks to my savings. 
I was only 14. And I listened to Depeche Mode, Sepultura, Jaco Pastorius, Paganini, Prince, The Ramones, the Italian Opera, The Doors. I grew up with Poe and  Lizard King. I grew up with colored hands playing a fucking synthesizer while they, the boys, only knew how to kick a ball and peek at cleavage. And they came to tell me that I didn't know anything about music! 
They were almost all unpleasant with me, some just wanted to go out with ne, others wanted to provoke and humiliate me to make me cry. But they weren't born yet when I was playing with my all girl band. So only one of them listened to me and took me seriously. 
This guy was a drummer and he had his best friend who was a guitarist. I said: perfect! ok, let's dive into this musical adventure. We experience everything. We started at the drummer's house, we started with covers of Nirvana, Korn, Marilyn Manson, Metallica, Inflames, ... 
It was very nice to be all together, playing, drinking tea, discussing music, art and more. But then the guitarist had existential crises. He ended up in the hospital and everything was pending. Then he didn't want to hear any more. And we lost the initial sprint. But I didn't give up, I still looked for musicians but everyone invited me only to go out with them and not to play.
 It was a disappointment. If you don't sing pop songs they don't take you seriously. If you don't act like Katy Perry or Lady Gaga then they don't understand you.
If a female musician doesn’t show her boobs, if she doesn’t dress sexy, then no one takes her seriously. Men believe that you have to be naked on stage to be able to make music. The boys also think so. Maybe many of the lotus were gay and can’t stand women, so they didn’t want me. In fact, from their clothes they didn’t look like rockers or even metalheads but cool guys.
True, Jim was also getting quite agitated on stage, moving and offering his dick to his fans. But he could do anything because he was a man. I, on the other hand, have been chained by the weight of being a woman. Do you know these women who do rock or metal? There are a lot of singers but they all play pop music. So I have to sing pop too? Do I have to resign myself?

https://m.soundcloud.com/amleta

9 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. giacomoasinello
    Jul 09, 2021 @ 12:38:02

    There are some great female rockers out there: Vixen, The Runaways with Joan Jett, L7, Lita Ford, Girlschool, Acid King’s Lori Steinberg, Lacuna Coil’s Cristina Scabbia – and, whatever you think of Maneskin (I like them), I hear that Victoria De Angelis is the boss! So don’t be disheartened!

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    • Fairy Queen
      Jul 09, 2021 @ 17:15:05

      I know them but ther’s a big difference between being known and being famous. If I ask soomeone all people know Metallica, Dimmu Borgir, Sepultura, Iron Maiden… Lacunacoil has two singers, it’s not a female band. I know Maneskine and I’ve listen to them and Know that Victoria is the boss of the band but the rockstar is him, Damiano.

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  2. giacomoasinello
    Jul 09, 2021 @ 12:40:29

    Oh, and how could I forget Doro Pesch, Floor Jansen and Tarja Turunen?!

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    • Fairy Queen
      Jul 09, 2021 @ 17:10:57

      I know in Germany is easier for a woman to play metal or sing metal. In Italy is not that easy. I’ve written about my experience. And this post was about people who play music but is not famous. The only metal band very famous are male band. Tell me about a female band very famous. I can say Metallica but they are all nen. Do you know a female band so famous like Metallica?

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      • giacomoasinello
        Jul 09, 2021 @ 21:07:54

        True. It is certainly dominated by men. Maybe Victoria de Angelis will change that? She certainly seems to be an inspiration for many girls.

      • Fairy Queen
        Jul 11, 2021 @ 09:28:02

        No, because as I said before she is not the rock star. The newspapers talk about Damiano’s sexy stage presence, his voice, his talent as a show man. But very few words and no cover for her. At first they only thought about writing that maybe the two were engaged. After the denial of the two, she was sidelined.

  3. Randus Applecorn
    Oct 10, 2021 @ 13:54:05

    being an artist is hard

    it’s also super hard to keep a band together..

    do you have any of your music online?

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  4. Randus Applecorn
    Oct 10, 2021 @ 13:54:38

    oh wait i just noticed the link🤣🤣sorry

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