GETTING BORED

Everyone has experienced boredom, perhaps on a rainy Sunday afternoon where there is nothing to do, it's cold outside and there is no one to go out with.
The boredom I am talking about in this POST comes from a deeper experience.
It is not boredom that arises from the absence of stimuli: it is boredom that arises from not being able to feel interest in the things we do and the people around us.
Anyone who gets bored in this way lives a daily life where nothing excites, involves and excites him.
The bored person dreams of a radical change, something that adds color to his existence but in the concrete he cannot indicate what could improve his life. new friends, try new clubs, invent a thousand things to do and even (in particular cases) try extreme sports or sexual experiences at the limit.
In fact, those who have this problem often manage to feel emotions and feel alive only by putting themselves in risky, extreme and transgressive situations which, however, over time lose their charge of exceptionality and become .. normal (therefore boring).
Those who are bored complain of easily getting tired of people, hobbies and anything: once the initial enthusiasm is exhausted, everything becomes obvious and the search for new friendships, interests and more stimulating and exciting situations begins again.
Boredom is not overcome by always seeking new stimuli or by radically changing my life (from the series "I quit everything and open a farmhouse in Tuscany") but by learning to value what you do, and to find a broader meaning in your daily life.
Small things are important but we often underestimate their value: for example, cleaning the house can be experienced as a tedious and tiring task but it becomes rewarding if I live cleaning as a means to create a comfortable environment for me and my parents. Dear.
Likewise, one's work can be immediately seen as an ungrateful duty, a source of boredom or considered in a more amapy perspective as a service to one's family or to the community.
The winning solution against boredom is to learn to be fully present in one's own reality and in one's family, work and social context.
The film "THE GROUNDHOG DAY " contains a masterful recipe to overcome boredom and apathy.
The protagonist of the film, a cynical and bored man, is forced by a spell to always relive the same day of his life, the day of the groundhog.
He finds himself stuck forever in living in a small provincial village, on a winter's day in a social context that seems to have little to offer him.
Every day the protagonist of the film wakes up knowing in advance how his day will unfold: it will be cold, he will always meet the same people and always make the same speeches. More boring than that!
To escape boredom, the protagonist does everything (including seducing some local girls) but nothing seems to give him satisfaction and his apathy increases day by day until he learns to live his day with a different spirit, looking at hers with love. everyday life.
The turning point comes when instead of focusing on the negative aspects of his situation (the cold, the small province, etc.) he begins to value the positive aspects of his life.
Instead of complaining about the winter weather, take advantage of the fun aspects of winter by learning how to make beautiful ice sculptures.
Instead of focusing on the flaws of the people around him, he learns to listen to them and help them by making so many friends. In a short time he begins to appreciate his reality that he previously considered banal and oppressive. And at that point his life changes radically, giving him everything he had always wanted (I don't write the predictable ending in case someone wants to see the film).
Finding yourself spending almost all hours of the day at home, following the Coronavirus emergency, and finding yourself at some point without knowing what to do, bored and almost, more tempted to go to bed in the middle of the afternoon because you really do is in the throes of personal despondency.

All is not lost, there is no need to break down but to find new life blood to face this period and come out stronger, when you can finally go back to making your everyday life.
Watch a documentary on a fact of history from the past to find out more

Start writing a personal diary, it doesn't matter if the first first does not coincide with January 1st
Take an online course on an unfamiliar topic that excites you

Write a map starting with one word and sequentially writing the first ones that come to mind

Order your desk, you will struggle less when you look for some precious papers in the morning

Read the book you've always promised yourself to do

Create a keepsake box by placing cards, photos, objects and holiday souvenirs inside

Try writing a fairy tale or a short story: you will remember when you heard them from your parents

Set up your favorite room

Scan with the scanner and archive your most important documents

Help a loved one in need: a phone call, right now, is worth so much more

Sort and catalog all your photos on your pc, creating easy-to-find folders

Cook a particular dish by leafing through a recipe book

Improvise a guide for a tourist in your city by walking around the house and improving communication

Delete bad memories from your social profiles

Listen to a new genre of music: who knows what different sensations you may experience

Enhance your resume to make it more attractive

Browse a geographical atlas to remember the countries and cities visited

Try drawing a landscape or a face

Watch a good moving film, comedy or thriller

Learn to take pictures with your smartphone

Start studying a foreign language

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