No more repeating commitments. No more performance anxiety. We learn to get bored and enjoy the benefits of boredom. With some caveats
Boredom scares us. We perceive it as an inner malaise, a condition of discomfort, with which we find it difficult to live. Life becomes dark, in the dim light of a sense of emptiness and abandonment, and we end up in the vortex of anxiety, a compulsion to move, to do something. A real waste of energy and emotion. Boredom breaks through in the field of depression, and sometimes it represents only a daily mask, difficult to remove.
In literature, great writers (I mention one for all: Alberto Moravia) have recounted the man devoured by boredom, and I happened to meet accomplished, rich people with a good career in progress, however afflicted by the boredom virus. They are really difficult to date, they have no peace. They transmit anxiety, they always have the frenzy to change places and company. They do not enjoy the pleasure of any stable moment of the day. They can't draw a breath without turning it into a gasp of stress.
Long live boredom. Long live the rediscovery of something that we have lost in the era of haste, of performance anxiety, of wanting to do everything immediately, and of the times of super speed imposed by the technological domain. Long live boredom which relaxes, allows us to detach, helps us distance ourselves from anxiety and stress and accompanies us to a more sober and more serene lifestyle. A positive boredom, constructive and not demeaning and pessimistic. Long live boredom, for adults and children. For grandparents who experience the fatigue of aging and for children who are in a frenzy of growth. Many believe that inactivity is bad and can trigger the vicious cycle of laziness. In reality, idleness stimulates creativity. It reduces stress and tension and helps us cultivate new ideas. Does this mean we have to become idle? Absolutely not, rather let's re-evaluate the value and sense of boredom. Boredom obsesses us, it scares us, and we always feel it lurking. Sometimes we try to avoid it even by taking refuge in the virtual world, but in this case the remedy can be worse than the disease, because boredom is associated with a sense of loneliness. And we are even frightened by the risk that our children might get bored: a useless and wrong fear.
I touch my snow plants
I fly over your anxieties
they pour out love on my limbs
and they fret to make me die
I wish you wouldn't look at me rapt
but become practical for a moment
you can't tell me to treasure
do what you want
I need to feel guided
from your fantasy of a woman who knows
back to a drunken time
of your soft skin
when I was willing for your precious smile
to give up the best part of me
when for your eyes of nothing
I was dragging along idiot and tired
when for all people
I was a loner
holy acrobat
for never asking you for anything
that went beyond your dimension
catastrophic and ridiculous at the same time
of a rich girl, a respectable girl
now my vein has run out
I swear I do not dare to speak
to make you feel bad a moment for good
to make you understand to be able to love
I asked my hitmen for money
I asked on my knees for a month's time
I have kept my promises and still
of your infidelity I am a monastic temple
I would never be able to continue
to still pretend to be a merchant of boredom
it is sold by weight or by the square meter
in my soul he is a true lacer
I'm still willing to do one thing love
old young vamp
to paint your myth of glory
to the hidden altar of cowardice
to console me by observing the image
of your dizzying hair
of the holy bibles of your womb
that I have too often confused with God.
Everyone has experienced boredom, perhaps on a rainy Sunday afternoon where there is nothing to do, it's cold outside and there is no one to go out with.
The boredom I am talking about in this POST comes from a deeper experience.
It is not boredom that arises from the absence of stimuli: it is boredom that arises from not being able to feel interest in the things we do and the people around us.
Anyone who gets bored in this way lives a daily life where nothing excites, involves and excites him.
The bored person dreams of a radical change, something that adds color to his existence but in the concrete he cannot indicate what could improve his life. new friends, try new clubs, invent a thousand things to do and even (in particular cases) try extreme sports or sexual experiences at the limit.
In fact, those who have this problem often manage to feel emotions and feel alive only by putting themselves in risky, extreme and transgressive situations which, however, over time lose their charge of exceptionality and become .. normal (therefore boring).
Those who are bored complain of easily getting tired of people, hobbies and anything: once the initial enthusiasm is exhausted, everything becomes obvious and the search for new friendships, interests and more stimulating and exciting situations begins again.
Boredom is not overcome by always seeking new stimuli or by radically changing my life (from the series "I quit everything and open a farmhouse in Tuscany") but by learning to value what you do, and to find a broader meaning in your daily life.
Small things are important but we often underestimate their value: for example, cleaning the house can be experienced as a tedious and tiring task but it becomes rewarding if I live cleaning as a means to create a comfortable environment for me and my parents. Dear.
Likewise, one's work can be immediately seen as an ungrateful duty, a source of boredom or considered in a more amapy perspective as a service to one's family or to the community.
The winning solution against boredom is to learn to be fully present in one's own reality and in one's family, work and social context.
The film "THE GROUNDHOG DAY " contains a masterful recipe to overcome boredom and apathy.
The protagonist of the film, a cynical and bored man, is forced by a spell to always relive the same day of his life, the day of the groundhog.
He finds himself stuck forever in living in a small provincial village, on a winter's day in a social context that seems to have little to offer him.
Every day the protagonist of the film wakes up knowing in advance how his day will unfold: it will be cold, he will always meet the same people and always make the same speeches. More boring than that!
To escape boredom, the protagonist does everything (including seducing some local girls) but nothing seems to give him satisfaction and his apathy increases day by day until he learns to live his day with a different spirit, looking at hers with love. everyday life.
The turning point comes when instead of focusing on the negative aspects of his situation (the cold, the small province, etc.) he begins to value the positive aspects of his life.
Instead of complaining about the winter weather, take advantage of the fun aspects of winter by learning how to make beautiful ice sculptures.
Instead of focusing on the flaws of the people around him, he learns to listen to them and help them by making so many friends. In a short time he begins to appreciate his reality that he previously considered banal and oppressive. And at that point his life changes radically, giving him everything he had always wanted (I don't write the predictable ending in case someone wants to see the film).
Finding yourself spending almost all hours of the day at home, following the Coronavirus emergency, and finding yourself at some point without knowing what to do, bored and almost, more tempted to go to bed in the middle of the afternoon because you really do is in the throes of personal despondency.
All is not lost, there is no need to break down but to find new life blood to face this period and come out stronger, when you can finally go back to making your everyday life.
Watch a documentary on a fact of history from the past to find out more
Start writing a personal diary, it doesn't matter if the first first does not coincide with January 1st
Take an online course on an unfamiliar topic that excites you
Write a map starting with one word and sequentially writing the first ones that come to mind
Order your desk, you will struggle less when you look for some precious papers in the morning
Read the book you've always promised yourself to do
Create a keepsake box by placing cards, photos, objects and holiday souvenirs inside
Try writing a fairy tale or a short story: you will remember when you heard them from your parents
Set up your favorite room
Scan with the scanner and archive your most important documents
Help a loved one in need: a phone call, right now, is worth so much more
Sort and catalog all your photos on your pc, creating easy-to-find folders
Cook a particular dish by leafing through a recipe book
Improvise a guide for a tourist in your city by walking around the house and improving communication
Delete bad memories from your social profiles
Listen to a new genre of music: who knows what different sensations you may experience
Enhance your resume to make it more attractive
Browse a geographical atlas to remember the countries and cities visited
Try drawing a landscape or a face
Watch a good moving film, comedy or thriller
Learn to take pictures with your smartphone
Start studying a foreign language
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