Are there subtle blackmails that keep you constantly on some sort of hanging thread? between guilt and terror of letting go.
Whoever exercises this power over you has the constant ability to bring you back in line, every time you disregard his expectations, every time you move on yourself. All this affects you, your daily life, your freedom. The fear of giving up those roles that are all you know, all you recognize, is biting. Getting out of these constant reproaches is necessary, giving up everything that triggers this mechanism is fundamental. The breath that breaks, the sense of guilt that digs inside, the fear of losing everything and losing you too, is central. "You do not give me what I expect, I ignore you, not recognizing you as I recognized you before, because you are no longer deserving that award". Letting go is difficult, giving up your role within that circle of trust is complicated, being afraid of not being able to "exist and recognize yourself" without the other is a focal point. Yet we can and absolutely must, to the point that it will no longer be what the other does but what you absolutely will no longer allow.
If you see something negative in the other, it means that you have something negative in you.
If one looks at others and sees twisted threads then it means that he often chokes himself.
The pride of the projection lies in the joy of seeing on the other what one believes not to see in oneself.
But calm down, no distractions because Anna Freud is still elaborating the game that the adult child plays in this society.
There is no restriction for those who look elsewhere.
There is no limitation for those who do not look at themselves at all.
Only one special saying remains in the arc of an arrow:
your grass is rotten because you don't water it.
But saying and not saying the things that are truthful is a sharp piece of whoever removed the score
from the piano to let the player invent it himself.
And maybe the musician is sitting hidden at the end of the hall enjoying the spectacle of the sound void.
Those who are used to following the notes do not know how to cook breaks.
THE PRODIGY OF IDEAS 