The narcissistic woman can present herself as the perfect woman and partner: intelligent, cultured, brilliant, attentive, kind, determined to fulfill herself, dedicated both to work and to the couple and to the family, but she can also present herself as fragile and as a victim to be saved. After the first phase of idyll in which the partner is idealized as special, anger, dissatisfaction, constant criticism, devaluation, emotional blackmail using the sense of guilt, punishment if he does not get what he wants. Jealousy, arrogance, vindictiveness emerge, the constant need for confirmation of being special. However, unlike the narcissist man who tends to suddenly become repulsive, the woman, while launching continuous recriminations and criticisms, continues to demand affection and attention, making it more difficult for the other person to extricate himself from the feelings of guilt, from the doubt of being emotionally inadequate. and not to give enough.
The narcissistic woman, just like the narcissistic man, weaves her web through affective manipulation, often using her very seductive aspect: she knows how to choose her victim in her greatest moment of need and every man can be attracted to her bewitching " song of the sirens ". At the beginning, therefore, she becomes the savior of the man / victim by nourishing his desire to feel important and esteemed: he covers the man with attention, fills his inner and emotional voids, making him feel invincible; induces him, in a subtle and suggestive way, to take "steps longer than his leg", destined for sure failure as they do not adhere to a given reality, but are artfully conceived with the sole intent of feeding the man / victim through the reinforcement of an ideal and grandiose self-image.
The narcissist is almost always manipulative, capable of establishing ambiguous relationships and bonds just to have financial support, power and gifts. He often looks for men who are insecure, clueless, inexperienced and virgin. She seduces them by making them believe she is a beautiful princess, a queen, a beautiful lady, who only wants to give love. Instead, look for victims to get money and gifts from.
She is convinced that she is great and unique, a special being, deeply envied, the holder of the truth. It requires continuous proofs of love and recognition and reads the reality around it, even the most authentic, with Machiavellian malice.
She becomes deeply entangled and tries to change the man in all his essential characteristics, deepening in him a pervasive and pervasive sense of inadequacy.
He is never enough and never does enough, he is certainly not a real man, he does not correspond to how he should be and he never corresponds to her ideal. She doesn't like anything about him and the criticism involves all aspects: his work, his family, his status.
The relationship becomes an earthquake whose epicenter is her unhappiness due to his inadequacy and the unfortunate's attempts to respond adaptively to high demands.
It is a relationship centered on great events and great dramas: betrayals, interruptions and reunions even when everything seemed highly compromised.
She always has other men, in addition to the chosen victim, which she uses to get money, paid bills, jewelry, gifts, beauty treatments, ... because to maintain her seductive appearance she must always resort to beauty centers to always show herself perfect and desirable. Thus the man-victim will not be able to help but desire it.
Narcissistic women (in the overt version) are bright, extroverted, interesting women, very focused on themselves, their physical appearance, their fulfillment and their goals; apparently they do not seem anaffective, cold and calculating, indeed often, they are perfectionist women, who dedicate themselves to the couple and the family, in such an obsessive way, as to be attentive to even the slightest defect of the other, always ready to reproach it, if , this defect may disregard their expectations as a woman or as a mother.
However, as in the case of men, the narcissistic woman never enters into intimacy with the other (avoidance of intimacy), does not want to show herself fragile, cannot lose, cannot lower herself, cannot risk compromising herself in the relationship. authentic with the other, for this reason the other must become as you believe that an ideal man should be.
It can be more difficult for a man to go and ask for help from a therapist, because there are still present prejudices towards this professional figure. Furthermore, man complains less about his problems, often avoiding to affirm that they exist, he is ashamed to admit to being a victim, preferring to withdraw into himself.
The other is perceived as an object rather than a subject with which to relate and in this sense, a pure instrument of self-satisfaction. In fact, she dominates man, even if she deceives him that it is the opposite. She makes him fall madly in love, binds him to himself with almost non-existent sexual relations, so that he desires her more and more, humiliating himself and giving many gifts to try to convince him to love her. But the narcissistic woman plays the part of the unattainable queen, sovereign of desires, and the man becomes her doormat. The trouble is that the man is lucky to have the attention of such a beautiful woman and therefore does not realize that he is being exploited and used.
In many years on the internet and at work I have listened to many love stores and read many stories of finished, disappointed, dead, finished loves. Why are there millions of people who suffer so much from love?
Men and women who cry, suffer, spend so much energy looking for love that it will then make them desperate, sad, depressed.
Why hurt yourself by not knowing the dynamics of love and narcissism?
Millions of people suffer from unrequited loves, due to anaffective, narcissistic, pathological and pcycopathic people.
Toxic love affairs ruin life.
Why can't these men and women avoid them?
There is a basic principle of psychology according to which each of us tends to expect from our neighbor what he himself would do. And in fact in my life those who are most suspicious, to the limits of the improbable, are also those who are most likely to put it in your ass as soon as you turn your back. They are the most insecure because having no solid moral principles they do not believe that others can have any and for this they look over their shoulder. What is even more serious is that insecurity is a virus that spreads very easily, just let it slip into a small crack and that idea will remain there as the keystone of all your other thoughts (do you know the inception top?) . This is why conspiracy theories have such an easy and fast spread: they leverage the insecurities and the rottenness of society, and in this particular historical moment, in which people are more narcissistic than ever, they are finding fertile ground to destroy every glimmer of faith. remained.
When a narcissist falls in love he does so exclusively towards himself.
Most narcissists belong to the typology of egocentrism, not altruism. An egotist is a person who has a perpetually positioned focus on himself with low levels of empathy towards others.
If you are in a relationship with a narcissus man, what you do not want to expect is that the latter can feel sincere love for you, it is simply impossible for him, even if he thinks he loves you.
Your dreams of romance and affection, as well as your plans for a rosy future in the name of a harmonious family with him, can be annihilated in an instant.
However, you may have decided to embark on your sentimental adventure at the expense of those who tell you that daffodils are a bad deal.
You may find yourself wrestling with the beautiful, hermitic, social, perfect, or histrionic narcissus.
This man, or this woman, is the one who can develop the tendency to become a full-blown stalker of the pathological and dangerous ones because he is able to develop fury towards the partner and it is the hermit narcissus. When a narcissist falls in love (according to him) with a woman and it is a type defined as the social narcissist, then one will have to deal with his tendency to put a third character between the couple and the script tends to repeat itself to the Infinity.
He will do it without realizing it because he is driven by the instinct of the need to manipulate by making him feel jealous.
They are the classic social artists, the ones who tell you that they are always full of commitments between parties, meetings and dance halls. The same people who receive phone call after phone call from friends, partners, relatives, ready to support him in his businesses.
Women who find themselves in relationship with social daffodils experience the pains of hell between jealousy and stress wisely induced by the narcissus, which keeps them imprisoned with refined manipulations.
Are you dating the handsome narcissist?
Get ready to take a yoga class, autogenic training or holistic disciplines because your cortisol (stress hormone) could skyrocket.
Cortisol will cause your facial skin to age in just a few weeks. Even your hair will start to turn white due to narcissist-induced stress.
The beautiful narcissist makes his aesthetics the adoration of the gods to the point of transferring you a strange discomfort, namely: making you feel unattractive on an aesthetic level in order to involve you even more.
The beautiful narcissist in fact focuses his instinctual manipulation on the levers of the beautiful, ugly, harmonious, disharmonious. He keeps his partner in constant tension precisely by enhancing their aesthetic defects with a cutting humor.
Try to notice the humor used by the handsome narcissist and you will see that everything comes back.
You feel extremely confused like a lost sheep, and you so much need a quick solution in facts, not in gossip and theories.
You've read, studied, and gathered information about narcissists, but it didn't help you in practice.
So, let's try to understand each other ... none of the suggestions you applied derived from the advice of friends and family has worked, right?
Much less the monotonous theories expressed by the luminaries on the internet, those concerning how to deal with narcissists of any kind.
And you know well that it is not as easy to "detach yourself from him" as those who respect you continue to suggest you do but without lifting a finger to help you face the real world
Because the narcissus appears at first glance as the right man, that man you have been waiting to meet all your life.
This is where the great DECEPTION hides.
The narcissist is intelligent, calculating, able to take the form of the prince charming you so desire. When this happens, then you know that his attention and commitment to manipulate you starts to increase because he feels he no longer has you in his grasp.
There are some daffodils like the hermitic who really believe they love a woman, they become suffocating and possessive ... and they think they are also full of reason.
They are those who are unable to accept rejection (seal) or abandonment. If it happens it is an EARTHQUAKE and the ordeal begins.
The hermit is the most dangerous of the narcissus types because he does not accept the cold closure of a relationship by the partner.
You will recognize him by his exaggerations while he talks to you about himself, by the fact that he has few friends and by the word "sincerity" that comes out recurrently from his mouth ... precisely because he is the liar in the first place.
It is the hermitic who makes the lie his first weapon of control, and it is he who can switch into a stalker and make your life a veritable hell. When dealing with such "ignoble beings of soul" (even if they are without fault of it) it is necessary to have the finesse to know how to recognize them and treat them in the right mogo at the first try.
What they exactly do to their partner?
They abandon it and then bring it back together (strategy of false abandonment).
They humorously reject it and then re-accept it.
They judge it strategically / devalue it and then magnify and console it (judgment ploy).
Conditioning the relationship with rules and setting constraints to then make her feel free instead (conditioning strategy).
They compare her to another woman indirectly and then privilege her and make her feel successful (bankruptcy comparison strategy)
Narcissists, men and women, make the lives of those around them hard just by being who they are. They will NEVER change. This statement may seem extreme until you listen to the stories of those who have been victims of a narcissist. Only then will you realize how toxic relationships with these individuals can be.
Narcissists overestimate themselves and devalue others, which means they will do it with you too. You will never be treated as equals, you will never be respected and, in the future, you will be devalued out of necessity, so that they can overestimate themselves.
Never expect a narcissist to admit a mistake or apologize to you. The blame is always directed towards the outside, never towards the inside. Narcissists have no concept of self-awareness or introspection, although they are quick to see flaws in others.
They expect to always be forgiven and that you forget everything but, above all, that you never challenge them in public. You have to remember that they want to look perfect to their audience, that they don't want to be embarrassed or contradicted, and that, otherwise, they will make you pay dearly. Narcissists lie without worrying about the truth, because lies are useful for controlling and manipulating others. When you catch them in a lie, they will tell you that it is you who are lying, wrong, or have misunderstood. Prepare to be attacked and to receive counter-accusations. When narcissists are kind, they can be very nice; but if you still feel insecure, it is because you know that there is a play behind it and not a real feeling. Kindness is a tool for social survival - a means of getting what they want, like needing a hammer to hang a picture.
You may ask yourself: "What can I do?". Wisdom advise you to consult a qualified professional to guide you.
It is wise, but not always possible.
BASED ON MY EXPERIENCE, THE ONLY SOLUTION THAT WORKS IS TO TAKE DISTANCES FROM THE INDIVIDUAL AS SOON AS YOU RECOGNIZE HIM FOR WHAT IT IS, OR AS SOON AS YOU CAN.
As your psychic wounds heal, you will earn your life improve and feel your dignity restored.
As painful as it may be to walk away, it is often the only way to stop the pain and regain your well-being.
When we think of sociopaths and psychopaths, we generally think of men. The Golden State Killer, The Night Stalker, Jack The Ripper—all men. But what about women?
Anti-Social, narcissistic and Machiavellian behavior that is found in women generally flies under the radar.
Narcissistic women aren’t using outright aggression and violence to terrorize their victims. Instead, they use manipulation and covert bullying to terrorize the people in their life.
The female narcissist is the true personification of a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
She appears in the form of a sweet, innocent girl, a kind-hearted mother, a vivacious, energetic, joyful woman, a kind, old grandmother—yet her motivations are often sinister and dark.
Deep beneath that sweet exterior lies something much more sinister: there lies a desire to destroy, hurt, and manipulate.
So why do female narcissists behave this way? What do they want? And what feeds this darkness within their soul?
Narcissistic women want, in no order of preference: power, dominance, control, wealth, status, resources; and, most disturbing of all, a desire to inflict pain on others, which leads to a sense of fulfillment and deep satisfaction on the part of the narcissist.
It should be noted that both men and women find themselves victims of the female narcissist, although usually in different ways.
Female victims are used to serve, feed and support the narcissistic woman’s ego, to serve her bidding like a servant serves its master.
While male victims are used to provide the narcissistic woman with attention, status and resources until the man is milked dry and is of no further use.
THE PRODIGY OF IDEAS 