THE CHOICE

The choice is mine. I choose to live by choice, and not by chance. I choose to make changes instead of making excuses. I choose to be motivated, not manipulated. I choose to be useful, not used. I choose self-esteem, not self-pity. I choose to excel, not compete. I choose to listen to the inner voice, not the informal opinion of the people.
How many times a day do we think about ourselves?

How many times a day do we think about our state of mind?

How many times a day do we make sure we are happy?

How many times a day do we ask ourselves if we are really okay, if we really feel good the way we live?

How many times?
One?
Two?
Or maybe we don't even once dwell on ourselves and the emotions we feel?

Perhaps the only moments in which we dwell on ourselves cannot even be defined as such.

Because they are more fleeting thoughts than anything else.

These are thoughts that go in a hurry. Thoughts too fast to be known and understood.

So why don't we stop them?
Why do we let them run away?

Even when the heart is tired it must continue to beat; even if he would like to stop to catch his breath, he cannot. "

This is how our thoughts feel.

As if it were forbidden to stop, even for just a second.

As if they are wasting all their strength on something that others don't find interesting.

As if they were useless and not valuable.
Yet, we choose who to listen to, among all those thoughts.

We are the ones who judge and divide negative thoughts from positive ones.

And it is important to remember that EVERY type of THOUGHT is of EXTREME IMPORTANCE!

Precisely for this reason, we must accept them and not label them or divide them into groups.

We must listen to them all, and give meaning to the sensations they transmit to us.

It is important to give a fair welcome to our thoughts, in order to create a healthy and pleasant relationship with ourselves.
It is important to give a fair welcome to our thoughts, in order to create a healthy and pleasant relationship with ourselves.


Why is it important not to neglect one's thoughts?
Thoughts have the power to shape and determine the reality and life of each of us.

If we complain, we are paradoxically attracting the negative into our life, while if we think intensely about our desires, we will give off positive vibrations.

This is because it is as if we are manipulating ourselves.

For example :

If we stare at a photograph of ourselves for too long, we will end up finding - creating - flaws and we will begin to feel distressed, sad.

While we perform an action, our brain never stops thinking. Keep letting yourself feel the positive and negative side of that thing through your previous thoughts.

If we think we have a bad nose, when we start staring at the photograph we will think it is beautiful but if we stay staring at it, we will immediately begin to perceive our nose as a defect!

We may begin to perceive life as a gift through positive thoughts.

We may start to feel good through positive thoughts!
Warning: When I say "through positive thoughts", I mean starting to appreciate even the smallest things that the world, and the people who are part of it, give us every day!
Because, as important as it is to accept life and yourself, it is also important to be realistic!
By starting to perceive things in a more positive context, we will be happier. But it won't help us to avoid the dangers and negative sides of the world !!

SOFISTICATION SATISFACTION

Style: “Let us ask ourselves if the problem is not not having something, but rather another type of lack in our heart. We do not make the mistake of always waiting for a different moment than the one we are given. We are always projected into a future that we do not have, rather than living in the present that we have.”
We are all waiting for something. A date, a vacation, a movie release, a trip, a concert, a good grade, a satisfaction, love, a kiss, a hug, happiness. We spend our whole life waiting and we don’t even realize it.
You have to get carried away, because things happen. We are made to follow, not to decide. To follow your instincts. When you feel that something is about to happen, don’t stop and think, go for it. Events can ruin your life, sure, and rash decisions too, but you’ll always have a chance to change, and to think, “Fuck, maybe I shouldn’t have done that. But it is only thanks to this that I am now the person I am. ” Always take the opportunity to improve yourself, to change, to live this life to the full and to get to the end with satisfaction, because it is a journey that is done only once, and situations never recur twice the same.
I do not expect anything from anyone not because it is pessimistic or negative, but simply because I believe that receiving something you do not expect is always more satisfying than what you already know. A bit like when you discard an unexpected gift without knowing what it is, but happy that it exists.

BODY POSITIVITY

Fat, hair, bones, spots, vitiligo, moles, blood: never before has the body-positive captured the media attention as today. Body Positivity was born as a political and social movement aimed at challenging the canons and prejudices of society on bodies. Its origins are intertwined with the history of the 1960s claims on fat-acceptance, to combat discrimination against fat people and celebrate plus-size bodies; they burned photos of models like Twiggy and even books on diets, organized lectures and seminars in schools. From concrete activism then a part of Body Positivity has turned into a real economy in its own right, coming to coincide with the photos on Instagram made of glittery stretch marks.
The online version that we could define as “a little fake”, was created by liberal feminism under the influence of pinkwashing, that is all those marketing activities that use themes related to women (feminism, sex / body-positive etc.) to gain market advantage. The message, however, is obviously deviating until it reaches the paradoxical situation whereby the Body Positive movement itself is marginalizing the bodies that were previously at the center. This is because brands show new standards in advertisements, this time a little curvy, but always new standards. This also happens in the fashion shows, where luxury brands give more and more space to models with different bodies. Yet, as Antonio Mancinelli noted: “when people go to the boutiques of the same brands to buy a suit, they often find only very small sizes”.
For each cover that praises Body Positivity and self-acceptance, “without judgments”, in the magazine on duty there are dozens of advertisements and articles on fitness that talk about how to lose weight in a few weeks, and that promote the diet cultures.
Lizzo talked about how the body positivity movement is marketed and most of the time when you see that hashtag it’s smaller, curvy, white girls, and that’s not inclusive
It cannot be denied that an openness from the media towards these issues is positive news, especially if one thinks of all the problems of self-acceptance that adolescents experience, but there is almost never a concrete translation of the great declarations and reflections that are made. In this way, this Instagram caption-sweetened narrative risks remaining an end in itself.
Suffering from your appearance is wrong, you are okay as you are ”. It doesn’t matter if you are thin, fat, wide or narrow hips, stretch marks or small breasts, belly or frizzy hair, big nose or thin lips, teeth or crooked legs – you are fine exactly the way you are. .
Andrea Watcher, a psychotherapist and author says – I have learned that changing my body will not make me feel loved, loving myself will. To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance  and all women and men have the right to accept their body. The shame is on the ones who use that to attack their self esteem.

 

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