ASK FOR JUSTICE

One wonders what origins the sense of justice has, if it is typical only of man, what is meant by justice and if it has a common denominator for all. By asking friends and acquaintances, I collected different answers: there are those who say that it is something inherent in the human being, those who affirm that it is a social convention for a good coexistence. All this does not satisfy me because if I think of justice over the centuries I see that what was once right is no longer right now; what is right with some peoples is not right with others. For the Romans it was right that there were slaves considered as inferior beings; for other peoples the law of retaliation or the low consideration of women was just; for some ethnic groups it is right to offer one’s wife to the guest, to mutilate the girls; dictatorial regimes believe torture and mass executions are just. So justice has a social but also strictly individual character: in a group of people there are those who believe it is right to act in one way or in another. The yardstick of punishments is also noticeably different in societies: what for some is a light sentence for others is a serious sentence (eg cutting off the thief’s hand). Religions too, like States have formulated laws on a concept of justice that is not the same for everyone. respect for the property of others, honesty … The mere fact of smoking, for example, is an unfair action because it ruins the body and the wallet; keeping a child who takes drugs and does not want to work is not right but fortunately justice can be united with charity (understood not as alms but as mercy, goodness of heart). Justice is the foundation of mercy (there is no mercy if there is no first justice as mercy is also justice and it is right to be merciful, charitable). Being charitable is the perfected and sublime way to be righteous. On reflection, even forgiveness without mercy becomes an injustice. For everyone it is right to try to stay in peace but only those who use charitable justice are able to avoid quarrels even at the cost of personally losing. This may not always be necessary, indeed, defending the weak and whoever suffers abuse is a duty for everyone, an act of justice that no one can escape from. In the world the most frequent job is that of the judge because, even if they do not work in the courts, men issue dozens of sentences daily against others and they are often sentences of conviction. Human justice can make mistakes, follow likes or dislikes, issue sentences only to avoid annoyances but true justice, more than from the civil code, comes from the heart.

CONFORMISM

Society presents itself as a sort of “pressing” (pressure) on a person, stimulating him to always seek conformity and forcing him to always pay attention to what “people might say” and forcing him to be “what others want see ”, preventing her from being“ that who is in truth ”. Man, as a part of society, becomes dependent on the opinion of others from childhood. At first it is caused by the desire to deserve parental approval and the respect of peers and later, in adulthood – by the desire to look like a happy and righteous person in the eyes of others. I often realized that sometimes this desire was so strong that it prevented me from living my life, even if it was a little different from generalized stereotypes. In society there is a clear allocation of “successful” and “losers”, “normal” and “strange” men and so on. Even though I understood that my vocation was different from the image, imposed by society and expected by my relatives, I kept trying to conform to that. One wonders, why? Internally many of us agree that depending on some other opinion is stupid, but in practice the situation is very different. The dependence on the opinions of others manifests itself and can be characterized by the envy of the successes of others, by the resentment caused by one’s own fiasco and also by the fear of disappointing the expectations of loved ones and close relatives, because we must have everything “like the others”. If not, “what will people say?”
Is this public opinion, which affects my life, justified? Do I really want to live my life not as my heart prompts me, but as others want? Come to think of it, my life, my health, and my success don’t change based on someone’s disapproval or condemnation. So what’s the point of paying attention to what others might say or think about me? (Here, of course, I am not talking about situations in which my actions could cause some harm to someone.) Often the cause of my inner wars becomes the opposition between “I want” and “I must”. I think most young people my age have already faced this kind of conflict, but in my case the roots of the problem go back to the Russian mentality. In Russian families, children get used to the fact that duty is above all else. The word “duty” dominates the interests of the child. You have to study perfectly, you have to play sports, you have to become a doctor like your grandfather and this list may never end. Saying “I want” is considered disrespectful. I often choose between my “want” and parental “must”. It is always a difficult choice. Finding the right solution isn’t always easy. Over time, I began to listen to myself more often, but that wasn’t always the case. When I was a child, I always did what my parents told me, even if I wanted to do something else. All this caused discontent, a bad mood and insecurity.

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