THE HARM OF NARCISISTICS

In many years on the internet and at work I have listened to many love stores and read many stories of finished, disappointed, dead, finished loves. Why are there millions of people who suffer so much from love?
Men and women who cry, suffer, spend so much energy looking for love that it will then make them desperate, sad, depressed.
Why hurt yourself by not knowing the dynamics of love and narcissism?
Millions of people suffer from unrequited loves, due to anaffective, narcissistic, pathological and pcycopathic people.
Toxic love affairs ruin life.
Why can't these men and women avoid them?
There is a basic principle of psychology according to which each of us tends to expect from our neighbor what he himself would do. And in fact in my life those who are most suspicious, to the limits of the improbable, are also those who are most likely to put it in your ass as soon as you turn your back. They are the most insecure because having no solid moral principles they do not believe that others can have any and for this they look over their shoulder. What is even more serious is that insecurity is a virus that spreads very easily, just let it slip into a small crack and that idea will remain there as the keystone of all your other thoughts (do you know the inception top?) . This is why conspiracy theories have such an easy and fast spread: they leverage the insecurities and the rottenness of society, and in this particular historical moment, in which people are more narcissistic than ever, they are finding fertile ground to destroy every glimmer of faith. remained.
When a narcissist falls in love he does so exclusively towards himself.

Most narcissists belong to the typology of egocentrism, not altruism. An egotist is a person who has a perpetually positioned focus on himself with low levels of empathy towards others.

If you are in a relationship with a narcissus man, what you do not want to expect is that the latter can feel sincere love for you, it is simply impossible for him, even if he thinks he loves you.

Your dreams of romance and affection, as well as your plans for a rosy future in the name of a harmonious family with him, can be annihilated in an instant.

However, you may have decided to embark on your sentimental adventure at the expense of those who tell you that daffodils are a bad deal.
You may find yourself wrestling with the beautiful, hermitic, social, perfect, or histrionic narcissus.
This man, or this woman, is the one who can develop the tendency to become a full-blown stalker of the pathological and dangerous ones because he is able to develop fury towards the partner and it is the hermit narcissus. When a narcissist falls in love (according to him) with a woman and it is a type defined as the social narcissist, then one will have to deal with his tendency to put a third character between the couple and the script tends to repeat itself to the Infinity.

He will do it without realizing it because he is driven by the instinct of the need to manipulate by making him feel jealous.

They are the classic social artists, the ones who tell you that they are always full of commitments between parties, meetings and dance halls. The same people who receive phone call after phone call from friends, partners, relatives, ready to support him in his businesses.

Women who find themselves in relationship with social daffodils experience the pains of hell between jealousy and stress wisely induced by the narcissus, which keeps them imprisoned with refined manipulations.
Are you dating the handsome narcissist?

Get ready to take a yoga class, autogenic training or holistic disciplines because your cortisol (stress hormone) could skyrocket.

Cortisol will cause your facial skin to age in just a few weeks. Even your hair will start to turn white due to narcissist-induced stress.

The beautiful narcissist makes his aesthetics the adoration of the gods to the point of transferring you a strange discomfort, namely: making you feel unattractive on an aesthetic level in order to involve you even more.

The beautiful narcissist in fact focuses his instinctual manipulation on the levers of the beautiful, ugly, harmonious, disharmonious. He keeps his partner in constant tension precisely by enhancing their aesthetic defects with a cutting humor.

Try to notice the humor used by the handsome narcissist and you will see that everything comes back.
You feel extremely confused like a lost sheep, and you so much need a quick solution in facts, not in gossip and theories.

You've read, studied, and gathered information about narcissists, but it didn't help you in practice.

So, let's try to understand each other ... none of the suggestions you applied derived from the advice of friends and family has worked, right?

Much less the monotonous theories expressed by the luminaries on the internet, those concerning how to deal with narcissists of any kind.

And you know well that it is not as easy to "detach yourself from him" as those who respect you continue to suggest you do but without lifting a finger to help you face the real world
Because the narcissus appears at first glance as the right man, that man you have been waiting to meet all your life.

This is where the great DECEPTION hides.

The narcissist is intelligent, calculating, able to take the form of the prince charming you so desire. When this happens, then you know that his attention and commitment to manipulate you starts to increase because he feels he no longer has you in his grasp.

There are some daffodils like the hermitic who really believe they love a woman, they become suffocating and possessive ... and they think they are also full of reason.

They are those who are unable to accept rejection (seal) or abandonment. If it happens it is an EARTHQUAKE and the ordeal begins.

The hermit is the most dangerous of the narcissus types because he does not accept the cold closure of a relationship by the partner.

You will recognize him by his exaggerations while he talks to you about himself, by the fact that he has few friends and by the word "sincerity" that comes out recurrently from his mouth ... precisely because he is the liar in the first place.

It is the hermitic who makes the lie his first weapon of control, and it is he who can switch into a stalker and make your life a veritable hell. When dealing with such "ignoble beings of soul" (even if they are without fault of it) it is necessary to have the finesse to know how to recognize them and treat them in the right mogo at the first try.

What they exactly do to their partner?

They abandon it and then bring it back together (strategy of false abandonment).

They humorously reject it and then re-accept it.

They judge it strategically / devalue it and then magnify and console it (judgment ploy).

Conditioning the relationship with rules and setting constraints to then make her feel free instead (conditioning strategy).

They compare her to another woman indirectly and then privilege her and make her feel successful (bankruptcy comparison strategy)
Narcissists, men and women, make the lives of those around them hard just by being who they are. They will NEVER change. This statement may seem extreme until you listen to the stories of those who have been victims of a narcissist. Only then will you realize how toxic relationships with these individuals can be.

Narcissists overestimate themselves and devalue others, which means they will do it with you too. You will never be treated as equals, you will never be respected and, in the future, you will be devalued out of necessity, so that they can overestimate themselves.
Never expect a narcissist to admit a mistake or apologize to you. The blame is always directed towards the outside, never towards the inside. Narcissists have no concept of self-awareness or introspection, although they are quick to see flaws in others.
They expect to always be forgiven and that you forget everything but, above all, that you never challenge them in public. You have to remember that they want to look perfect to their audience, that they don't want to be embarrassed or contradicted, and that, otherwise, they will make you pay dearly. Narcissists lie without worrying about the truth, because lies are useful for controlling and manipulating others. When you catch them in a lie, they will tell you that it is you who are lying, wrong, or have misunderstood. Prepare to be attacked and to receive counter-accusations. When narcissists are kind, they can be very nice; but if you still feel insecure, it is because you know that there is a play behind it and not a real feeling. Kindness is a tool for social survival - a means of getting what they want, like needing a hammer to hang a picture.
You may ask yourself: "What can I do?". Wisdom advise you to consult a qualified professional to guide you.

It is wise, but not always possible.

BASED ON MY EXPERIENCE, THE ONLY SOLUTION THAT WORKS IS TO TAKE DISTANCES FROM THE INDIVIDUAL AS SOON AS YOU RECOGNIZE HIM FOR WHAT IT IS, OR AS SOON AS YOU CAN.

As your psychic wounds heal, you will earn your life improve and feel your dignity restored.

As painful as it may be to walk away, it is often the only way to stop the pain and regain your well-being.

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